In Sickness and In Health - God is the source of our ultimate healing

Your marriage is perfect, right? I know mine is! Ok - we both know that isn’t true - but on our wedding days it was probably hard not to think life was butterflies, rainbows, and birds singing forever. Then life happens - annoying habits, missed cues, crossed lines of communication, kids, lack of sleep, piles of laundry… and one day what once seemed perfect maybe at times feels like a lot of hard work and very difficult. Maybe in the dark, quiet moments of night you wondered if perhaps, maybe, you made a mistake…

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” (John 14:27, ESV)

Life is hard; marriage is no exception, and like so many things our flesh by nature wants to put our hope in trust in temporal things, including our spouses. Now don’t get me wrong - God designed marriage, and we are meant to find joy, happiness, and contentment in that relationship. It just can’t be our ultimate source of hope; sadly in our culture which places high value on the emotional experience of romantic love many people - Christians included - do just that and end up broken and disillusioned when their imperfect spouses aren’t able to be “their everything.”

So what as followers of Jesus are we to do? Dr. David Hawkins wrote a devotional recently for Proverbs 31 Ministries called “In Sickness and In Health.” He shares the toxic affects that constant stress can have on physical and emotional health, particularly in the marriage relationship, and then offers this piece of wisdom:

God’s peace comes not from worldly relationships or circumstances, but from our relationship with God.

Everything starts with God; our relationship with our spouse - no matter how powerful the bond or how “good” that person is - can never substitute for being rooted and grounded in Christ. When the marriage relationship breaks down, Christ is the source of healing and restoration. In sickness and in health, it all starts and ends with Jesus.